I work in patient/therapist, client/consultant, and employer/employee relationships. I don’t want to manage a patient, client, or employee. I want to lead them.
At the same time I want to be led by them.
The truly great thing about any interaction is that each party brings something of their own to the table, the table is shared, and everyone then takes something away from the table.
Leaders create tables where effective sharing occurs.
Which tables you allow others to share with you and what you take away from them are responsibilities that you cannot share, however. That part is for you to manage.